“Dedicating this article to all lovely parents”
“23-year-old Bengaluru boy who leapt to his death from a Mumbai five-star hotel was depressed possibly over exam failure…. his father, a Bengaluru businessman, said he found his son disturbed and depressed when he met him sometimes back”
This situation is possibly due to the pressure of education and performance. Who created this?
“Reality TV star swallows sleeping pills live on Facebook. He had posted in a live video on Facebook late on Tuesday night, saying he is depressed with life and will not be available to anyone henceforth as friends and others were torturing him”
There were suspected issues with friendship. This man appeared to have worried about his self-esteem. Who was responsible for this situation?
Two different individuals, two different walks of lives, two different locations, were connected by one problem. Frustrated about living and ultimately going through depression lead them to take extreme steps.
My heart really aches for these two who lost their lives and for their loved ones, who will be grieving the losses for the rest of their lives.
I was deeply disturbed by these incidents hence decided to understand this problem a little more.
Why is this bothering me?
I’m not only disturbed by such news but also concerned as a father of a teenager son and a daughter of 10.
Is committing suicide a solution to depressed individuals? Will I ever in my life pushed to deal with a situation like this?
I’ve seen people living under depression with a hope that one day their life will be alright. It’s simply unacceptable for anyone to take such extreme steps of killing themselves.
Such heartbreaking news comes every day, lives may be lost, and the news would stay in peoples’ hearts for days. The damages are permanent for the affected and their loved ones.
A few more thoughts came to me…
How many old men and women are living under depression for multiple years?
Do they have access to their own children or other close people to talk to?
Are they getting the right medical attention?
Do they have enough money to take care of themselves?
“Depression – Let’s talk”
Coincidentally around this time, on 7-Apr-2017 the World Health Day follows the theme “Depression – Let’s talk” driven by the WHO (World Health Organization)
WHO defines depression as, “a common mental illness characterized by persistent sadness and a loss of interest in activities that people normally enjoy, accompanied by an inability to carry out daily activities, for 14 days or longer”
“Depression is the leading cause of ill health and disability worldwide. According to the latest estimates from WHO, more than 300 million people are now living with depression, an increase of more than 18% between 2005 and 2015. Lack of support for people with mental disorders, coupled with a fear of stigma, prevent many from accessing the treatment they need to live healthy, productive lives.”
There are many already living under depression and thinking about taking extreme steps. Maybe, you and I are not affected now but might end up getting into a life-threatening situation like this in the future too, if things go out of control. Or maybe you’re one like me, who is disturbed by this condition, and want to help or act and do something about this.
Many depression remedies are clinical in nature supported by a certified medical practitioner. I’ve interacted with few who have been undergoing treatment. Even though they are happier now, they are living under the biggest fear of getting into a deep abyss, when they stop their medication. In general, medications could leave a lasting damage to the kidney and other vital organs leading to further complications.
I’m yet to know of any ‘depressed’ individual who has successfully recovered from this mental illness and stopping these medications, which I believe, are mere placebos.
Sources of depression & happiness
While it is easy to say that the individuals who are under depression must talk, I think the problem is elsewhere.
It is scary to imagine that many of us are contributing to depression in someone else’s life.
My Dad (who is no more), after the death of my mother, would always stay reserved and lock himself up in a room and think about the loss. Even after many years, he couldn’t accept it. Adding to this, he also had a terrible experience of fighting through a stage 3 bladder cancer. After a painful cystectomy procedure, he had to live through the horror of carrying an Urostomy bag around his belly for many years. He never was interested in public events and it was extremely hard for the rest of the family members to really understand how he was fighting these feelings. On many occasions, he’d call me and say “Kannan, just touch me and sit next to me, you can continue to do your work and I don’t want anything else from you!”
There were great moments in his life through these depressing years of illness. He was at his best with the company of friends and relatives talking loudly and cracking jokes. He would get extremely excited to talk to people and even start his preparations for their arrival, days or even weeks before. I had the happiness of taking care of him during his old age along with the best support of my elder sister (who again was a cancer victim and fought through the monstrous disease at a very young age), my caring wife and two kids. The years we all lived together had certainly helped him overcome his loneliness and loss of self-esteem due to his illness and surgery.
Aren’t there many parents, sisters, brothers and friends around us, who possibly are going through a situation like this?
It is such a beautiful word and an easy answer to many complicated diseases. Exercise is an important source of happiness and wellbeing for everyone who follows a routine.
(Source: sciencedirect.com) “There are several studies proved that often exercises are more effective than medication in treating depression. Exercise is the best medication for depression because it stimulates the release of brain chemicals that improves your mood (ask a runner who finishes any running event). The key is to commit to an activity program will kick start the prevention process – also the recovery if you are already depressed
(Source: mercola.com) A study was conducted designed to test whether exercise is an efficacious treatment for mild to moderate major depressive disorder and the dose-response relation of exercise and reduction in depressive symptoms. The outcome summary of the report as written in the mercola.com says,
- Depressive symptoms were cut almost in half in those individuals who participated in 30-minute aerobic exercise sessions, three to five times a week after 12 weeks
- Those who exercised with low-intensity for three and five days a week showed a 30 percent reduction in symptoms
- Participants who did stretching flexibility exercises 15 to 20 minutes three days a week averaged a 29 percent decline”
I’m left with the puzzling thoughts of how the next generation of kids will lead their life going through the evil this society offers, and how they will deal or succumb to the difficult situations that may arise in their life.
5 important things that I have decided to have in my life to lead an exciting life!
- Eat healthy and nutritious food, avoid drinking and smoking.
- Go for a run or make exercise and stretching a part of my life; Continue to make it part of my family value system; Make it an everyday routine
- Talk to my children often. Help them understand what success is all about. SCORING high marks in exams or having money and wealth are not the correct indicators of success. Teach them good values to become good human beings. Also, tell them that happiness does not necessarily come from status, fame, and money alone
- Find a company with good friends, family members, and well-wishers. Don’t want to think loneliness is an answer for life problems
- Care for your parents. It is unfair to dump them in old age homes or treat them as lonely dwellers in a corner of your rich mansion; do remember that all parents have struggled in their life to have your dreams fulfilled. Give them the simplest, best possible pleasures. Go sit next to them, gently touch and talk to them. Give them back what they deserve!
Join me, Let’s not just talk! Let’s talk and act today!
Let’s prevent our next generation from getting through depression and let’s fight depression together!
Coach Kay is an ACE Certified Personal Trainer and an ultra-marathon runner with an experience of running 60+ Marathon/Ultra marathons; After 24 years of working across engineering and software industry, he has established KaysFITAcademy (www.kaysfitacademy.com), an institution with a passion for transforming individuals for discovering the best in them. He is a guest speaker in institutions and
Kay is also a social entrepreneur and founded SahayaLRTS, an NGO which promotes and builds awareness on road safety through its campaign “Be Safe! Be there to Save!” & #424242running.
Being an avid fitness enthusiast and a running coach he has been successfully helping many individuals (beginners to Ultra Marathoners, couch potatoes to fitness freaks) to realize their running, personal health & fitness goals